Word of the Day: DESERVE

One month ago, it was Election Day in America.
One month ago, the American people spoke.
One month ago, America changed for the worse.

But did America change for the worse on that night?
Or did the bandage merely get ripped off the scab?

It was a showdown between Vice President Kamala Harris and former President Donald Trump, in his third bid for the White House, after a 1-1 split (well, for most of us).  Many people, including myself, were calling it "the prosecutor vs. the felon".  Many people, including myself were saying the decision would be an easy one; it wasn't.  Many people were saying it would be a close election; it was.  Harris ended up about 1.5% behind Trump.  Many people were saying, well, the American electorate knew even better what he was all about, so that would make a huge difference; it didn't.

So, what the hell happened?  The Cliff's Notes version, incomplete as it is, is this: Harris received roughly 6.5 million less votes that Biden did in 2020.  It is reasonable to say that a huge chunk of the Democratic base said, "Thanks, but no thanks."  There were other reasons I'll be getting into shortly, but whether that was because they weren't all that thrilled with Harris or they wanted Biden to stay in, who knows?  Whether Biden should have stayed in will be debated for decades to come.  I, for one, thought Biden handed the election to Trump after their only debate back in June.  Would he have won if he stayed in the race?  I honestly have no clue.  Part of me says no.

As a side note, maybe the usefulness of debates needs to be looked at hard.  After all three debates, none of the candidates got the "post-debate bump" for their side.  None of them.  Admittedly, though, that may speak equally to either the usefulness of debates or the die already being cast in voters' minds.

Let's look at some already-stated reasons for why what happened happened:
- While it can be argued that Hillary Clinton and Kamala Harris may or may not necessarily have been the best candidates, too many Americans still won't vote for a woman for the top office.  Lousy reason.
- Too many Americans would never vote for a Black woman (who's also Asian) for the top office.  Another lousy reason.
- Many Americans felt Harris did not separate herself enough from Biden, especially regarding Israel and the Israel/Gaza war.  Very understandable.  Harris' echoing the "Israel's right to defend itself" message, even though also saying Palestinians have "their right to dignity, security, freedom, and self-determination", was a deal breaker for many.  
- In what I call "panic politicking", moving a younger Harris into the top slot after forcing out the elder Biden may have been a deal breaker for many Democratic voters.  I, too, was immensely disheartened and utterly confused after Biden's performance in the June debate.  If you're not feeling well, Mr. President, reschedule the damn debate!  After the debate, I said Joe Biden just handed the election to Donald Trump.  If that was one of the reasons for not voting for Harris, I get it. 

The U.S. House of Representatives remains in POT (Party of Trump) control, although their seven-vote majority will now be only a five-vote majority.  Control of the U.S. Senate was flipped to the POT.  Democrats had a two-vote majority; the POT will now have a six-vote majority.

Trump's victory in 2024 is LARGER than his victory in 2016.
Popular Vote:
2016: just under 63,000,000
2024: over 77,000,000
Electoral Vote:
2016: 304 electoral votes
2024: 312 electoral votes

A lot of people have been harping on polls.  (I'm right there with you!)  That's always been an argument, and it ramped up even higher in 2016, when almost all of the polls had Clinton winning the election.  Even Trump's own 2016 campaign (and some say even Trump himself) thought he would lose.  The reason he took so long in 2016 to come out for his victory speech (roughly 3:00 a.m.) was because his campaign scrambled to put together a victory speech.  I think the trustworthiness and viability of polls may have been definitively determined with this election.

Before I go further, let me say the democratic process worked just fine.  It worked as it should have.  The democratic process was not broken and is not broken.

Some folks said that Trump's win in 2016 was a fluke.  With Biden winning in 2020, it seemed that theory was right.  The 2024 election proved that theory to be ultimately incorrect.  With Trump winning in 2024, his election in 2016 was no fluke.  As it turns out, Joe Biden's election in 2020 was the fluke.

I voted for Clinton, Biden, and Harris, so why would I say that?  Well, one of the reports I heard repeatedly after the election was that democracy was the second-biggest concern on voters' minds, with the economy as number one.  A lot of economic indicators said the economy was better during Biden's presidency than during Trump's, but I've been saying it's only been better for the better-off and corporations.  The indicators may be correct, but for most of us, myself included, coming home with a ton of groceries, for just one example, was less and less a normal occurrence, and more and more and more an expensive occurrence.  

Look through history.  If the economy is not doing well, odds are the incumbent president is voted out.  If the incumbent in a second term, odds are the other party will get voted in.  That has often been the case.  During Biden's presidency, inflation overall, including gas prices, has been worse than during Trump's presidency.  Granted, we went through soaring prices during the pandemic with supply line disruptions and price gouging, but most voters consider the current state of the economy when election season comes a-callin'.  

The economy is, and has always been, a huge issue for voters because they face it in real time on a day-to-day basis, so I get it.  Living paycheck to paycheck and one financial catastrophe away from bankruptcy are more the norm than ever before.  Are you better off now that you were four years ago? has been a consistent campaign question from both sides for decades, if not centuries, as though voters have to be reminded to consider how they're doing personally when it's time to vote.  Was Biden going to be the solution?  Will Trump be?  Who knows? 

All I know is struggling and fed up is just as strong of a motivator, if not more so, than voting red or blue.

Immigration has remained a campaign issue, really an ongoing political issue, for ye ... uh, deca ... well, centuries.  (During Trump's first term, by the way, deportations went down.)  You want to come here?  Sure, but do it legally!  My grandparents on my father's side did so legally -- he and his siblings were first generation American born -- so you should, too!  That's probably the only thing on which both sides can agree on this issue.  Still, is Trump the answer?  His new "border czar" Tom Homan will make sure how immigration, legal and illegal, is handled will be a scary and disgusting process.

Also, on the topic of Trump's messaging on immigration, Oh, they're not talking about me will likely be found to not be the truth it's thought to be.  When it comes to targeting, whether you're in the center or on the furthest-out circle, you're still a target.  

Something else I've noticed about Trump's supporters in all three elections: They say you can't take everything he says seriously, especially if it's something that gets a lot of heat.  He said this, or he said that, and he was just kidding.  (That's also Trump's frequent excuse.)  Well, that's not true for Trump, but I have an overarching question: if you're not supposed to take everything he says seriously -- and this goes far beyond any candidate making a joke now and then on the campaign trail -- then why is he your guy?  And if your party backs someone like that, how grounded is your party in serious, viable, intentional leadership?

One of the most confusing aspects of this election is how, in so many states, down ballot questions with positive consequences for folks passed, but those same voters voted for Trump for president.  HUH?!  It could be said you take those down ballot issues as very real issues, but the "character" gets your vote for the top slot.  That just doesn't compute for me.  I was thinking, "I don't get it" really fits how I feel overall.  To a degree, that is still true, but I acknowledge that voters are, quite plainly, a finicky bunch.  Sad, but true.

Plus, voters like to remain uneducated, uninformed (or not fully informed), or flat out lied to, when it comes to casting their vote.  After the election, it was reported that two of the biggest Google searches were "What is a tariff" and "Can I change my vote". 

On February 23, 2016, after winning the Nevada primary, Trump said in his victory speech, "We won with the poorly educated. I love the poorly educated."

To the majority of voters, Trump...
Is coming for immigrants, legal and illegal ... GOOD!
Talks down to people ... THEY DESERVE IT!
Talks aggressively ... THAT JUST SHOWS HE'S TOUGH!
Was impeached ... PFFT!
Was impeached twice ... DOUBLE PFFT!
Is a convicted felon, 34 times over ... SO?
Is an adjudicated rapist ... WHATEVER!
Separated 5,000 children from families at the border ... HE'S PROTECTING OUR COUNTRY!
Is pro-White Supremacist ... LEFT-WING LIES! (or HE'S ONE OF US!)
To that last point, here's a quote I found from a Trump voter on why he voted the way he did: "People say he's a dictator. I believe that. I consider him like Hitler. But I voted for the man." 

I have no words.  Just...no...words.

Elizabeth Willing Powel was an upper-class socialite who had many political ties in early America, was a friend of George and Martha Washington, and hosted many socialite dinners.  During the course of the Continental Congress in 1787, likely at the conclusion or during a recess, Powel had asked Pennsylvania delegate Benjamin Franklin about what kind of government the delegates had created: "Well, Doctor, what have we got, a republic or monarchy?"  His response was, "A republic. If you can keep it."

Perhaps Franklin envisioned a voting away of the republic as a possibility, or not. 

After the election, I posted a picture on social media that said, "America is no more".  While true in one understanding, it is a bit of a misnomer; this is what America has become.  That's terrible to say, and I hate to say it, but I'm just calling it as I see it.  Can America, and its very soul, be turned around?  Yes, but not without a lot of work, and not without a lot of looking at the big picture beyond ourselves simultaneously.

To be frank, I am afraid I will have little sympathy for those who may utter during the next two or four years: I didn't think it would be like this/this bad or I thought they were talking about someone else or I didn't vote for this.  The Thomas Jefferson quote at the top of this post is my reason why.

There's been a lot of use of the phrase "in two years", referring to the 2026 mid-term elections, going around.  True, that's the opportunity to do some turning around, but consider all the damage Trump can do, especially now that he'll be essentially unfettered in the presidency, in two years.  And also consider whether or not both houses of Congress will be flipped to keep him in check -- no small task.  If both houses of Congress stay in POT control after the mid-terms, Trump continues unchecked.  If only one of the houses of Congress flips, it will only mean a slowing down, only a partial check on him.  Both houses need to flip.  It's happened many times before in our history, so it's not impossible, but it too is a case of we'll have to see what happens then. 

Will all of the proverbial gathering of defenses and road blocks already being prepared be effective against Trump?  Who knows?  Even if they are effective, how effective?  To what extent?  You won't eradicate Trumpism, White Supremacy, the hatemongers, and the coming First American Reich just like that.  All of that was around long before 2016.  Trump's stirring it up and rising it up means, when January 20, 2029 rolls around, whether he leaves or not, this will not magically go away.  No easy fix is available.

Indeed, "The government you elect is the government you deserve."  This is truly no longer the United States of America, except in name only, but rather, what I call the Separated States Called America.

I no longer recognize my country.  I just don't.

More, much more, to be said...

Terry     

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT

Hello dear readers, old and new!

Terry here, and I wanted to announce that I am returning to the blogosphere.  I had just a couple of odd postings afterward, but this blog officially ended almost four years ago (January of 2019).

A lot has happened since then: The pandemic, of course ... a car accident that was fortunately not serious physically, but my car was totaled (and it took over a year to get a new car) ... my mother dying ... various financial hardships ... and two presidential elections (2020 and 2024).  Needless to say, a lot has happened since January 2019, and a lot can be said.  A lot.

With that in mind, this Thursday, December 5th, The Keyboard Commentarian will return!

So, in just a few days, I will be warming up my fingers and getting my blogging chops up and running again.  I hope my older readers, those I gained since January 2019, and any new ones go forward from now will find my posts interesting -- FYI: I go for quality (when I have something worthwhile to share), not quantity -- and that they'll keep you coming back as a regular reader.

I look forward to returning to the blogosphere!  I hope you will join me!

Terry

Word of the Day: VIRUS

R.I.P. George Floyd

Dear readers ...

Well, it's been a while, hasn't it?  It's been a year-and-a-half since I wrapped up this blog.  I wasn't sure if I would ever come back to it.  (There certainly has been plenty about which I could have been commenting!)  However, the events of nearly three weeks ago and the resulting response has hit me pretty hard and I just need to share this.  This is not exhaustive of everything I feel and it's certainly not the be-all-end-all statement on this issue.  So, for good or for bad, here is what I have to say.

For starters, I truly hope you are all safe from COVID-19 and healthy.  Stay strong and stay safe.

Before I begin, some clarifications.  This is not a full-time return to this blog.  I am not ready to make a return, so this will be a one-off post.  Also, there are those who have spoken and will speak on this far more eloquently than I, but I am adding my voice simply because I feel so strongly about this.  This will be more controlled than what I've been saying out loud around the house.

Now, allow me to offer a few examples of personal perspective.  First, I was picked on a lot in school, so much so that it really got to me.  At the school where I attended grades 4 through 8, back in the days when there were no such things as middle schools, I was picked on every year.  My mother told me that, when you're new at a school, kids will pick on you.  I replied that I must be new every year because I was being picked on every year.  Later, she added I was being picked on because I was a "stocky" kid.  (What I wouldn't give to be stocky now.)  I offer this first example not to say that being picked on is the same thing as being harassed, unnecessarily imprisoned, or killed.  Absolutely not!  Not even close!  I did not automatically understand racism and how I felt, no matter how bad it felt, paled in comparison to what black people in this country have to live with.  I offer it merely to illustrate that I was made aware of being attacked for no good reason and having done nothing wrong at an early age -- it made no sense and it was wrong -- and that first building block stayed with me ever since.

Second, I am male and white, the "best" combination to get along in life.  A lot of people would argue that this whole "race stuff" shouldn't concern me.  I am less likely to even be pulled over for a traffic stop, aside from being a pretty good driver, or turned down for a job even if i'm qualified.  In other words, I should just keep quiet, sit back, and enjoy the ride.  I cannot.

Third, I was always someone who said, "All lives matter."  (I still believe it.)  For me, that included everyone.  However, primarily, my own people (white folk) co-opted it as a saying that really meant you (black folk) can wait.  Thanks a bunch.  (sarcasm intended)  For those who may have an issue with "Black lives matter" or simply confused about its meaning, I think this might clear it up:

Finally, I believe the only real race is the human race.  End of argument.  (Well, that should be the end of the argument, anyway.)  Just like there are different breeds of dogs and cats, different species of marine life, and different classifications of mammals, we are all variations of one race.  Words for that are ethnicity, ancestry, nationality, and descent.  You don't hear anyone saying, for example, someone who is of Irish descent is a different race. do you?  This idea that black, white, Asian, etc., are different races is sheer fallacy, a bogus narrative that numbs description and promulgates division.

There is something about the murder of George Floyd that has finally awakened society.  What it is specifically, I'm not sure.  Some commentators have said it's the graphic nature of the video.  That could well be true.  I thought the murder of Eric Garner six years ago, which was also filmed in its entirety, would have been the turning point in this country, but it wasn't.

The inclusion of the murders of Breonna Taylor, Freddy Gray, Trayvon Martin, Tamir Rice, and Ahmaud Arbery, to name only a few, certainly, and bitterly, compound the frustration.  It may well be that the filming of the actual murder itself, close up, has led to George Floyd's murder at the knees of Milwaukee Police becoming our national clarion call to action.

What that action is must be shaped, of course, by the problem itself.  You don't need me to go through a history of racism and race relations.  If you have paid attention, if you have heard, if you have studied, you know what it is and the stain on this country it has left, and continues to leave.  It is not only "America's original sin", it is also "America's ongoing sin".

Just like pressure controlled by a valve, it will blow if the pressure isn't released.  One of the ways that building pressure has been expressed has been through marches.  It is also one of the rights guaranteed by the U.S. Constitution: "peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances".  Some may say to march in protest is wrong, but they couldn't be more wrong.

Allow me to sidetrack for a moment to address those who demonize peaceful protests with looting and destruction, the rioters.  Nothing good has ever come from rioting, whether you look at the mid-twentieth century to the early protests over the George Floyd murder, or the Tulsa Massacre ninety-nine years ago, where white rioters decimated an affluent black community in Tulsa, Oklahoma, injuring 800 and killing as many as 300 people.  Some of today's rioters are from loose-knit groups seeking anarchy or a second Civil War, but whatever the reason, their actions make it far too easy for the ignorant among us to slap on labels of "thugs", "troublemakers", or "all blacks are bad".  No solutions have come from labels.  However, what I have seen in some protests, with protesters calling out the rioters, has been a welcome and empowering sight.

Maybe if black people were no longer given any reason to protest, the rioters wouldn't have a venue for their own kind of hatred.  Just a thought.

Now, what this country has had for centuries is a virus.  The coincidence that we are battling the COVID-19 virus at the same time is not lost on this blogger.  Both are insidious, both include death, both are easily transmissible.  The main differences are: a) one is biologically mutated and the other is perceptually instilled; and b) racism has been around far longer than COVID-19.

This racist virus is so insidious and so permanent, all of those infected with it refuse to accept they have it.  It not even a case of being asymptomatic, as with COVID-19, but rather being normative.  You will find some victims of this virus saying, "That's just the way it is."  They were brought up in a racist environment, became infected, and live their lives accordingly.  Others have simply resigned themselves to that state of normative attitudes and behaviors.

This sense of normative infection has been, as we've seen with George Floyd and too many others, a result of not just personal racism but also systemic racism.  Look at hiring practices that have been discriminating against black people (as well as other disenfranchised groups).  Look at how those in law enforcement have been mistreating black people.  Look at how the legal system mishandles black people.  Even look at the cell phone videos posted online of white people calling the police because they are near a black person, showing how they think the system is for them and no one else.

Look at the video of George Floyd's murder and how the (now ex-)officer with his knee on Floyd's neck is behaving.  He looks right at a camera, without screaming at the person filming to stop and without a scowl on his face, hands in his pockets.  He is nonchalant about it.  He is doing what he believes to be normative.  This kind of behavior -- knees on necks or any kind of murder -- is normative.  Whether it is their training (which instills a sense of normalcy) or their current police chief who publicly says the officer(s) behaved according to protocol (which also instills a sense of normalcy), the infection is there.

Add to that a president who tells a gathering of police officers in Long Island, New York, in the summer of 2017 to be rougher with criminals, receiving their enthusiastic applause.  It is like recovering from ingesting a poison and then taking very small amounts of it, not enough to kill you, from to time; recovery becomes impossible.  The desire to send active military troops on the streets, and to refer to the streets as the "battle space", is akin to taking more than a small amount of a poison.

Another element that adds to recovery being impossible is the police officers' "code of silence" (aka "blue code of silence", "code of honor").  In short, it means to keep quiet if a fellow officer has done something immoral, illegal, or improper in some way.  (Personally, I find this similar to the sexual abuses by priests in the Catholic Church.)  Legally, it's called "qualified immunity" and it stems from the U.S. Supreme Court recognizing it as legal doctrine back in the late 1960's as a means to avoid frivolous lawsuits against officers and police departments.  However, over the course of decades, it has been applied to cases of police brutality or impropriety.  Most people saw this as a kind of "Stay Out of Jail Free" card for law enforcement.  While this automatic absolution hasn't applied to every single case against officers, the occurrences when law enforcement is actually held accountable are far too infrequent to say the infection has been eradicated.

Your code of silence is your code of violence.

Watching the news coverage of the protests following George Floyd's murder has given me pause and a sense of hopeful surprise.  Go back and look at pictures and films of protests over civil rights and the killing of black people in the 1960's.  Next, look at the protests from Ferguson and Baltimore.  Then, look at the protests now.  Notice the glaring difference?  The number of white people has increased immensely.  The diversity at these protests -- granted, the U.S. is more diverse now than the 1960's -- is amazing and heartwarming.  Not to mention that they have continued for nearly three weeks, since George Floyd's murder, and protests are happening not just here, but around the world as well.

After so many times saying to myself that the protests following the unnecessary murder of a black person by police might be the turning point, but then seeing nothing come of it, perhaps these protests are symbolic of the fundamental societal shift that has been too long denied and too long overdue.  What does it say about us when the following is a predominant theme:

Many times, at various tragedies, I hear people say things like It's [whatever year] and this is still going on? or When are we going to stop this? or Now is the time!  That last one, especially, is partially true, except for how it's typically used as a term of a new beginning.  There is no new beginning, at any of these tragedies.  The time isn't just now, whenever "now" has been, the time has always been here to make things better.  The time has always been here to behave morally.  The time has always been here to course correct when we go astray.  Any time, all the time, every time, we are called to see ourselves as one race, to come together as one people, to see each other as people, and to not make things great for some, but to make things great for all.  The call to all of us has been here from the beginning, has never left us, and never will leave us.  We all just have to answer the call.  Maybe, just maybe, we are finally doing just that.  I truly hope we are.

At the bottom of the George Floyd mural in Minneapolis, it reads, "I can breathe now," following his pleas of "I can't breathe" to his murderers.  In the context of time mentioned above, that can refer to not just being free from the pain of being murdered in broad daylight by those who are supposed to protect us, but also of being free of being looked down upon as something less by those who are supposed to protect us.  George Floyd's life mattered because black lives matter.  We need to achieve black people being free without death being the only means to do so.  Fight this virus!  Let them breathe!

This virus has gone on too long, and we need to rise together as one to fight this virus.  We need to knock down our other methods of division in coming together.  In that spirit, I would offer to following:

Remember the words of Jesus: Love one another as I have loved you., and rise up!  Remember the words in the book of James: Faith [without] works is dead, and rise up!

We are, and have been, in a pattern of "koyaanisqatsi" or "life out of balance".  (The Native American term can also translate to "life of moral corruption and turmoil".)  Help us to return to a life of moral goodness and balance, rise up!

Nature focuses on balance and imbalance, not good or evil.  Help to bring us back to balance to get us back on the right path for ourselves and the planet we live on, rise up!

Faith may be a religious term, but it is not so exclusively.  Have faith in yourselves and your fellow human beings.  Come together to do the right thing, and rise up!

We must listen to each other and work with each other, or else this will be yet another squandered opportunity.  No ifs, ands, or buts.

We need to heal, but maybe we need to see "heal" as a contraction or sorts, where "heal" is made up of "hear" and "deal".  We need to really hear black people, like any subjugated class of people, and not give them merely "ear service".  That means not telling them what they think or how they are supposed to perceive things.  Then we need to deal with making things right.

Healing the virus in the hearts of those who defend and endorse racism is the far bigger challenge, for just fixing the here-and-now means more of the same is coming later.  I don't have the answer on how to do that, aside from saying open your hearts and raise the upcoming generations better.  My belief is that's not just the answer, but it can be a big part of the complete answer we need.  We need to make what all of this appears to be, the needed shift, a reality for now and for our future.

WE MUST BE THE MEDICINE FOR OURSELVES AND EACH OTHER!


Terry

Word of the Day: FAREWELL

Today marks the final entry for The Keyboard Commentarian.

This is the end of a journey that began in the Summer of 2012 that has seen a number of events and changes here and abroad.  The tiny blip of history that this blog has covered has been a reiteration of the phrases Change is inevitable, Time marches on, and Life goes on. 

I would be remiss if I said I never imagined what would this final entry look like.  It hasn't been very often, but I have thought about it.  Conversely, I would also be remiss if I did not admit that what thought I did give it, as I sit here now writing this, was pretty much useless.  This is truly a you-never-know-until-it-happens moment for me.

Social media vis à vis the Internet is an amazing tool.  It allows, among many things, the opportunity and the platform to express yourself.  That is a good thing.  Like almost any good thing, it can be abused, too, so the precarious balancing act of freedom of expression and being socially responsible is ongoing.

Putting yourself out there sometimes requires a healthy sense of ego.  This is not necessarily true for members of law enforcement or public servants such as firefighters, paramedics, and doctors, as they may be simply providing information.  More along the lines of performers, public speakers, and others who are the focus of attention, you have to feel, even if it's just to a small degree, that what you have to say matters and that what you have to say should be heard by others.  You can believe that and share what you have to say with a small number of persons, but putting it out there for the whole world to see requires a healthy sense of ego.  It is only when the intent is purely egotistical or even egomaniacal that a more careful look needs to be taken.

My own intention for this blog was not simply to get attention or to tell everyone how right I am and how wrong they are.  (Those who disagreed with my viewpoints may have felt I was doing the latter, and all I can offer is that such was not the goal.)  In fact, in my very first post on June 19, 2012, I offered the following clarification:
        "I do not think I bring anything necessarily unique to the blogosphere, save for my
        own voice.  I just thought it would be cool to have a place to air my opinions, to
        praise or to vent, to get things off my chest, etc."
In the years since, I added to that list shedding light on topics and issues that I felt needed more attention.

Similar to downloads in podcasting, there are two schools of thought on blogs: focus on the number of views or don't focus on the number of views.  Focusing on them could mean, although not a clear barometer, that you only want a high view count, along the lines of having more and more friends on Facebook or followers on Twitter.  Not focusing on views could mean, again not a clear metric, that your focus is on content over counts.  I am squarely in the latter of the two, as both my total views of 12,000+ since 2012 and my not posting with any regularity attest.

Allow me to address for the last time the point of my not posting on a regular basis.  There is no shortage of things on which to comment.  My feeling has always been that I have something to say and it should be put out there, but not everything grabs me strongly enough to comment on it.  By strongly enough, I mean I may have strong feelings about something, but I need to feel ... inspired (I guess is the word) to sit down at write about it.  Maybe compelled is the more accurate word here.  The words of the ancient Greek philosopher Plato -- although it is highly contested if they are, indeed, attributable to him -- have been my guide (and there are many variations of this):

The foolish one speaks because he has to say something.

The wise one speaks because he has something to say. 

Well, I hope I'm a wise one.

As an offshoot of counting/not counting views, my goal was not to make me feel good simply by getting a lot of feedback.  Still, one glaring omission over the years has been the scarcity of exactly that.  The small amounts I have received have been very much appreciated.  However, it is impossible to tell with any certainty if those of you who have ventured into my tiny piece of social media real estate did so out of finding my musings utter nonsense or something meaningful.  My hope was for the latter.

Speaking of nonsense, humor has not been at the forefront in this blog.  (Unless, as aforementioned, you only see this blog as nonsensical.)  What smattering of humor I have incorporated now and then has been two-fold: 1) my focus has been on pretty serious topics, so humor has not always be appropriate; and 2) humor is not a strong suit of mine.  My friends might find #2 odd since we joke around frequently.  I have found that when I want to be intentionally funny (trying too hard), I am just not funny.  What laughing my friends may do because of something I have said is purely an in-the-moment chuckle and not a result of a carefully thought-out routine.  In other words, stand-up comedian is not a career path for me.

I mentioned views earlier, and here are some of the more-viewed entries of this blog:
- A documentary about the first World Trade Center bombing in 1993 on its twenty-fifth anniversary
- An exposé on the ridiculous manner of firearms sales in this country
- A report on the Northern Peruvian Pipeline which showed problems with pipelines similar to our own
- A 2015 commentary on mass shootings averaging that year to very close to one per day
- A tribute to blues legend B.B. King at the time of his death
- A two-part piece on Meniere's Disease [part 1 - part 2]
- An explanation of the unsafe nature of hydraulic fracturing ("fracking")
- Some musings on human behavior and animal behavior

By far, very far, the most-viewed posting of this blog was the one about the military son of a friend of mine, Anthony Howell, who had served in the Gaza Strip with a multinational peace-keeping force and who had gone missing while stationed at the Army National Guard Base, 11 Bravo, in Albuquerque, New Mexico.  The first post alone -- there were four total -- received over 800 views.  When you add the initial posting with the three updates, the total number of views reached over 1,150.  As I noted last Spring on the occasion of this blog's 200th post, Anthony is doing well, living in Tennessee with his wife Alexandra and their now two-year-old daughter Maisey.

I have taken pride in doing the best job possible with this blog.  When expressing my opinions, they have been purely my opinions, and when I have stated facts, I have researched them.  I have done my best to get it right, but I have not always done so.

After all this time, I have two clear insights stemming from the writing of this blog:

1)  We can do some wonderful, terrific, and good things.

and

2)  We can do some horrible, disheartening, and bad things.

The trick is to which one are we willing to give more of our time and effort, for each one brings about a different kind of world.

If nothing else, the main thing I hope you will have gleaned from this blog after all these years is that our best efforts need to be encouraged and our worst efforts need to be exposed and stopped.  In other words, even though this blog has not primarily been philosophical in nature (although philosophical points have been touched on from time to time), many of the themes covered, if not the topics themselves, point to the necessity of our making the world a better place.  Although not my original intent back in 2012, my hope is this blog will be seen as my small contribution to that goal.

I know I have said this before, but allow me to say it one final time... It gets harder as you get older, but you have to try and hang on to a sense of amazement about the world.  One microcosm of that is the Internet.  I know we take it for granted, but I remain amazed at how the Internet connects people from all over the world.  To that extent, seeing all of the different countries from where visitors to this site have come has remained mind-blowing.  To know that people from half way around the world in China and several places in-between have visited here is nothing short of incredible to me.

One criticism, if I may, that I would offer relates to the Internet and other means of connecting with others.  It has been said that the world has gotten smaller and it continues to do so.  We are becoming more and more connected to one another, and that is a good thing.  However, all of this electronic and digital connection does not necessarily bring us any closer relationally to one another.  (Although an argument can be made that enjoying successes or speaking out against atrocities in other parts of your own country and the world is a form of being relational.)  Long distances and responsibilities aside, we often replace face-to-face visits or even phone calls with texts, E-mails, and social media posts.  Showing me what you are about to eat for dinner does not make me feel closer to you as a person.  It is a paradox when what makes us connected sometimes makes us more distant.  It's what I would call interimpersonal.

If you are a regular reader of this blog, you may be asking why am I ending it.  Well, the short answer is simply burn-out.  I noticed early in the Fall of last year that my posts were becoming even more infrequent (i.e. none in September or November last year).  The death of my dear friend Ed in late October and a long list of personal issues I have been dealing with for some time have begun to weigh heavily on me, more so than usual.  While I have enjoyed writing this blog, and one can argue it is a form of distraction for me (even though not fully), focusing on myself personally is what is most needed.  To ease any concerns you may have, no, there is nothing health-wise that is problematic.  (Well, nothing, aside from needing to lose some weight.)

On one more personal note, my perspective on my life has not included many things about which I have felt a sense of pride.  A sad commentary in and of itself, to be sure, however this blog does not fall into that category.  I am proud of the work I have done on The Keyboard Commentarian.  And yet, my greatest wish is that any enjoyment and/or meaningfulness you have received from it far surpasses any amount of pride I feel.

All of this is not to say that I have nothing left to say.  There are things now and there will be things in the future about which I will have something to say.  As they say, "Never say never," so I may, at some point in the future, want to return to the blogosphere.  It may be under the banner of The Keyboard Commentarian once again or something new.  Should I make the decision to return, I hope you will be as welcoming and interested as you have been all these years.

And so, after six-and-a-half years and 225 posts, the end is here.  I have never taken you, dear readers, for granted, and I have tried to never let you down.  I hope that you have found this blog both informational and inspirational, and that it has added something good, something positive, and something helpful to your lives.  I cannot thank you all enough for your readership and support.  For me, calling you all dear readers was not merely a cordiality; it was meant from the heart.  My deepest thanks to all of you.

As I bid you all farewell, may you all fare well on this journey we call life.

Terry

Phrase of the Day: TIDYING UP [Part 2 of 2]

PART TWO

I started this yesterday, and today is for finishing up tidying up.


Any humanitarian crisis is a tragedy and the one in Yemen is no different.

Yemen is the poorest country in the Arab world.  A war has been going on there for four years between the Yemeni government and the Houthi militia, with both claiming control of the government.  The tragic results are millions of Yemenis displaced, medical infrastructure all but gone, and roughly ten thousand dead, including death from famine, with the vast majority of those numbers being children.  The United Nations' coordinator for Yemen, Lise Grande, said in an interview, "I think many of us felt as we went into the twenty-first century that it was unthinkable that we could see a famine like we saw in Ethiopia," adding that those who die from starvation in Yemen could top 13 million.  (The Ethiopian famine from 1983-1985 claimed 8 million lives.)

 

 

 

The United States in involved in this war, plain and simple, in support of the Yemeni government.  It is involvement in a war that has never been approved by the U.S. government, which is the way it is supposed to work.  We had been engaged in airborne refueling of their planes, and we continue to sell bombs and other weapons to them and help the government's army strategically pick targets.  Since this has begun four years ago, our involvement began during President Obama's tenure and has continued during President Trump's tenure.  (If you know anything about recruitment tactics, you can imagine how our involvement is fueling more men to join terrorist organizations with anti-American positions.)

Our escalated involvement is why, on his first trip abroad as President, Donald Trump was lavished upon by the Saudis.

My feeling is summed up in this meme ...

We need to end our military involvement in Yemen now!

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I think technology is a good thing.  (Consider my typing my blog on my laptop and it appearing on the Internet.)  I drive a car which has all sorts of technology throughout and I own a smart phone.  Technology is everywhere and it is supposed to be for our benefit, not our capitulation.  One example: I recall one of my Facebook friends posting the question of how often people charged their phones.  When I stated that I do so every few days, they were genuinely gobsmacked, citing charging their phones as often as two or three times a day.

I think my being a fifty-seven year old person who does use technology makes me an old fuddy-duddy because I prefer sitting down and typing thinks like this blog while on my laptop.  Not that my eyesight is poor, even though I do use a pair of off-the-rack magnifying eyeglasses purchased at a dollar store, but I just feel more comfortable sitting down and typing.  (Maybe being raised on typewriters has something to do with it.)

One of my more recent surprises with technology, although it's been several years ago, was when my mother was in the hospital for an overnight stay.  The nurse who came in take mom's last vitals before being discharged took what looked like a pen of some kind and pulled it across mom's forehead, as though she was drawing a straight line on a piece of paper.  When I asked her what she just did, she replied she had taken mother's temperature.  I was floored and replied something to the effect of No way! and That's 'Star Trek' stuff!  (Bones, of course, would think nothing of it.)

Getting back to smart phones, we have really become a society obsessed with them, haven't we?  There are videos everywhere of people driving while texting -- that, alone, got so bad that "DWT" (Driving While Texting) became a legal thing -- or walking into things, all with their heads bowed down (as if to create a kind of skeletal question mark out of their bodies) and their eyes glued to the rectangular screens, hypnotized.  What's on that screen is far more interesting that the world around you?  Really?  Those who might answer in the affirmative should, at the very least, consider their personal safety.  Paying attention to your surroundings is one way to try and keep yourself from harm.  You might say being on a phone is not as serious as a surgeon operating, but what if that surgeon was operating on you and allowed him/herself to be equally distracted?

Things like technology, and some would include entertainment and sports as well, can be huge distractions to what is going on in the world around you, but it is also a means by which things like the transhumanism movement have been gaining footing.  We have become so enamored -- not amazed, like I was when the nurse took my mom's temperature -- but enamored to the point of passive observers, with no other response than that of children who want to keep seeing something more.  Transhumanism is not about the androids from Isaac Asimov's I, Robot series, or even, more recently, Sophia.  No, its interest is in turning us, human beings, into bio-robots with immortality as one of the goals.

Additionally, why are we still so afraid of death, which is a natural part of life?

We really need to stop being hypnotized by technology and start paying attention to the world around us.  If we continue to be enraptured with the latest gadgetry, then the results will not be good for humanity.

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One of my hopes in recent years was to continue this blog long enough to see, hopefully, the current U.S. President, Donald Trump, voted out of office.  I say "hopefully" because no one expected he would win the 2016 election, so I cannot say that a loss for him in 2020 is guaranteed.  Sad to say, the two years he has been in office, only half-way through his term, have been a disaster.

Any study of presidential history will show that the forty-fifth president is not the only president who has had scandals during his tenure: Warren G. Harding's Teapot Dome, Ronald Reagan's Iran-Contra Affair, Bill Clinton's extramarital affairs, Richard Nixon's Watergate, are a few examples.  And yet, we have never had a president whose words and deeds were so abhorrent, so unacceptable, and so un-presidential as those of the current resident at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue.

Additionally, we have never had a president who has embraced enemies of the U.S. and given a cold shoulder to its allies, either.  Some might argue that was the case with Trump's predecessor, Barack Obama.  However, Obama's approach was along the lines of talking to our enemies can be done.  If something positive comes of it, great.  If not, then we have at least tried.  Hardly an embracing of our enemies.  Others may argue our involvement with various governments and military regimes by providing money and weapons may demonstrate that.  Believe me, I do not agree with the method or the reasoning, but they were done with the idea that a "good" side was fighting against a "bad" side, not an embracing of an enemy of the U.S., as misguided and ill-conceived as each instance of that was. 

What I mean here, with regard to the current president, is the open embrace, rhetorically and literally, of leaders who are, in essence, dictators (as he touts their accomplishments and relishes their praises for him), coupled with the less-than-flattering language he uses about our long-standing allies.  No president before him, not a single one of his forty-four predecessors has done that.

He is responsible for the longest government shutdown ever, possibly looking to declare a "national emergency" in order to pillage allocated monies to fund an unnecessary wall.  He, his family, and his businesses (which he never fully disassociated from, something else none of his predecessors ever did) are under multiple investigations.  He was investigated by the FBI for possibly working on behalf of Russia after firing then-FBI Director James Comey (with the findings of that investigation having been added to Special Counsel Robert Mueller's ongoing Russian investigation).  He constantly lies and he flip-flops on what he will or will not do about as fast as a fish out of water.

I have mentioned before on this blog about how people need to strop voting out of fear, as they are being exploited by doing so.  Clearly, those who voted for Trump did so, in part, out of fear.  It appears, though, they also went to the voting booth craving bombast and attitude, both of which never solve problems.  They got it and the country is, on many levels, paying a steep price.

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The Church, in general, speaks often of the chipping away at it by forces outside the church, a la good resides in here and bad resides out there.  To be fair, The Church has always had to deal with, and sometimes act or exist in contradiction to, the goings-on in society at large.  (Society at large doesn't always get it right, either.)

One of the hardest things to do is to critically look at yourself and identify and acknowledge the bad things about you.  The Church, when it speaks of things outside of it as the problem, is falling into the same trap.  It must look at itself, honestly and critically, to see where many of its problems lie.

I wrote just last month, once again, about sexual abuse by priests.  There are other wrongs within the broad banner of The Church.  Things like monetary abuses, such as the late Oral Roberts saying, in 1987, that God told him he needed the raise $8,000,000 or God would "call [him] home" and got it (over $9,000,000, in fact), or Creflo Dollar asking for $65,000,000 for a "necessary tool" private jet four years ago and got it, or Apostle David E. Taylor being under criminal investigation three years ago for financial misappropriations, including expensive cars, a mansion, and expensive clothes.

The last two examples above are examples of a phenomenon that has been around for a while called the "prosperity gospel".  Much of the Bible that speaks of prosperity, wealth, and riches speaks of them in terms of blessings from God or God sharing Heavenly riches. There is nothing about God raining down money upon ministers or God wanting ministers to receive ridiculous amounts of money from their congregations.  The only prosperity to be found in the prosperity gospel is that of those who promote it.

A sad side effect is so many smaller churches that do the right things and do good works end up being collateral damage from all of this kind of behavior.

These actions [sexual abuse by Catholic priests and bilking money] are just two examples of how The Church should really take a good, long, hard look within itself and start cleaning up its act before it can address how terrible the world around it is.  Many times, it is these very abuses that make so many willfully decide they want no part of it.

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Okay, I think that is more than enough tidying up. 

As I have mentioned before, the end is near for this blog.  Yesterday and today were the last two posts before the final post.  That final post will be one week from today, on January 22, 2019.  See you then.

Terry

Phrase of the Day: TIDYING UP [Part 1 of 2]

PART ONE

I turned fifty-seven last month.  I nicknamed it my Heinz ketchup birthday.

Hardly an old age, except, perhaps, for that young child who came up to me at a coffee shop when I was in my early fifties.  When she asked how old I was and I told her, she said, "You're old!"  It's all perspective.

Looking ahead to the upcoming final entry in this blog, in addition to living almost six decades, I find myself looking at a lot of things.  All that time alive and all these comments have given me a particular perspective on things.  In putting this together, I found that I had quite a number of odds and ends, if you will, so I decided to split what I had into two posts.  Today, is the first part of my tidying up before this blog wraps up ...


If you look around, I mean really look around, you will find things of great joy and great sorrow, things of beauty and things of ugliness, equity and inequity, triumph and failure, and so on.  It is easy to focus on one thing, or type of thing, and ignore the other.  A lot of that is filed under focus, as in, what you want to focus on and give your energy.  Looking at both, it can feel like a never-ending spiral.

 

Really, it is more along the lines of the Chinese philosophical symbol of Yin-Yang, which symbolizes that opposite forces/energies/intentions may be connected to one another ... sometimes even bringing about one another.

In other words, there is good and bad in life and the trick is navigating both of them.

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Look at the violence in schools.  Students bringing not only knives, but guns to school.  Guns!  Sometimes, to show off.  Sometimes, to send a message of Back off!  Sometimes, to murder fellow students and/or teachers.  This is a symptom of our losing our ability to disagree without violent conflict.  It used to be that the worst a student had to worry about -- well, aside from passing a test -- was a fistfight, flipping the bird, swearing, or mom insults.  (And there would be repercussions at school AND at home afterward.)

How quaint those things seem now.

I find it heartwarming, even encouraging, when I see teenagers in Florida survive a horrific domestic terrorist attack by a former fellow student and then turn that into the largest massacre prevention movement in this country since the horrors of Columbine High School twenty years ago and Sandy Hook Elementary School six years ago.  Alternately, I find it discouraging when there are forces willfully trying to allow such horrors to continue.  Still, the #NeverAgain movement has brought about the most positive change on this issue and I hope that continues.

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Many times, as the saying goes, those who do not remember and learn from the past will repeat it in the future.  Sometimes, that comes in the form of warnings not heeded ...


Other times, it may be a willful ignoring of how things were done before ...

Images from the first ever preemptive strike by U.S. military

Speaking of war, I find it, at worst, humanity's greatest disgrace, and at best, illogical.  World War I was known as the "war to end all wars".  World War II, often referred to as "the big one", has also been called "the great war".  Tell me, what war is "great" really?  Sure, the victor(s) can savor a great victory, but at what cost?  Before anyone misunderstands me, I understand, in the case of World War II, that a great enemy, Adolf Hitler, needed to be stopped.  I am not arguing that he should have been allowed to continue his evil plans, not at all.  (Such was part of the path former British Prime Minister Neville Chamberlain took, much to his disgrace.)  Still, look at what the result -- granted, it was deemed good versus evil -- was: violence, murder, and destruction met with violence, murder, and destruction.  Hate begets hate; violence begets violence.  In the spirit of the phrase You won the battle, but we won the war, we may win a war, but what we had to do to win it is, at best, a sad commentary on humanity.  It is, truly, a sad commentary on the human condition and a downward spiral with an inhumane result.

Instead of warring against a people or a country, we have (in the interest of furthering the military industrial complex that President Eisenhower warned us about) been at war for the past seventeen years against an activity ... terror.  Look on a map ... you won't find any country with that name and no people named Terror, either.  The financial cost for the War on Terror so far is estimated at nearly six trillion dollars.  Six trillion!  By warring against an activity, perpetual war is guaranteed, and those kinds of dollars could be spent far more wisely.

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Does anyone remember what an actual democracy looks like?  I understand there are those who say there hasn't been a real democracy in the U.S. for a very long time, that certain groups of individuals around the world run (or at least have their hands in) things like politics, world finance, and social structure.  (I'm not big on conspiracy theories, but I do agree with that belief.)  As the late comedian George Carlin once quipped, we only have the illusion of choice.  At the very least, we seemed to have a democracy.  To whatever degree we did or did not have a democracy, now there are those who are willingly destroying it in plain sight.

In Wisconsin, the POT lost big time in that state as part of the Democratic "blue wave" (which was more like a slow roll of molasses).  Before leaving office in January, those POT members passed legislation that limited the incoming Democratic leadership of some of its power, which the voters of Wisconsin had voted to give them.  Outgoing POT Governor Scott Walker signed the legislation into law.  In Michigan, the POT state Senate passed legislation that would limit incoming Democratic State Attorney General Dana Nessel.  It would give their party the right to intervene in any lawsuit brought against laws passed by the POT in the state legislature.  (Surprisingly, POT Governor Rick Snyder vetoed the bill.)  Again, the voters had voted to give Nessel the position of state Attorney General and all of the power that comes with it.  Finally -- for now, that is -- South Carolina is likely going to vote in the Summer on canceling the state's POT primary, slated for February 29, 2020.  President Trump handily won the state in 2016 -- 55% Trump, 41% Clinton -- so it is likely he would win the state's primary again, but what about the voters' will being tabulated and recorded?

The United States of America's form of government is listed as a constitutional republic, but it is also listed as a republic, a democracy, and even a democratic republic.  Fact is, there is no one term to fully describe this country's form of governance.  (That is, aside from "terrible".)  The democracy part is gone.  If you did not believe it before, look around.  If you were someone who ascribed to the U.S. being a democracy, that very democracy is gone.  What good is it to call it a democracy when the will of the voters, as expressed by their votes, is going to be taken away?  When an election is held in another part of the world and it is likely the results will not have the import they should, it is highlighted in the news and there are several entities that monitor those elections.  We condemn the fact that the people's votes may not matter in other countries, and we should here, too.  In a true democracy, all votes matter, and that can be emphasized as ALL votes matter and all votes MATTER.  What has been a gradual erosion of our democracy has now become an overthrow of it.

Two more notes on the election process itself:  One, get rid of the Electoral College.  And no, I am not saying that because I voted for Hillary and she lost in 2016.  I am saying it because it is outdated.  As much as some argue removing it would provide a less equitable representation in presidential elections, we have that now with it in place with elections coming down to one or two states.  It needs to go.  Two, and I've said it before on this blog, everyone must stop voting out of fear.  The powers that be have been exploiting that fear and taking advantage of this country because of it.

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This is purely observational and not from a place of my never making mistakes -- I've made more than my fair share -- but can we all, please, start being and acting responsible again?  Sure, we can look at the current political climate (and politics in general) for just one example but, good God, avoiding responsibility has become a national obsession.  Politicians being irresponsible to their constituents ... parents being irresponsible to their children ... businesses being irresponsible to their employees ... friends and family members being irresponsible to their friends and family members ... humanity being irresponsible to the planet ... I mean, it just goes on and on and on! 

Yes, sometimes people make honest mistakes and may have to pay unjustly for them.  When that happens, it must be dealt with to try and correct it, but let's be honest, that is not what we do the majority of the time from which trouble arises.  Whatever happened to taking your lumps for things you did wrong?  Mind you, it is not every single person on the planet who acts that way, but it seems to be a case of what can be described as either an epidemic (or, perhaps, a pandemic).

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Unnecessary and unwelcome returns have become a thing now, instead of occasional occurrences.  Not that these ever fully went away, but we did what we could to try and eradicate them, at the very least to the point where any of these are rare. 

Thanks to the research of Dr. Jonas Salk and others, polio (full name: poliomyelitis) was defeated, with the last case being almost forty years ago.  Polio is contagious and can cause severe breathing difficulties, paralysis, and even death.  Polio has been brought into this country by travelers coming here who already had it, but as a national epidemic, it was defeated through regular vaccinations.  Cases of a polio-like virus, called Acute Flaccid Myelitis, have been surfacing for the past four years.  Not to mention the increase of cases of measles, after that was declared to be eliminated (no continuous transmission for a period of longer than twelve months) almost twenty years ago thanks to vaccinations.  The anti-vaccination movement wants a return to early twentieth century or pre-twentieth century medicine.

Another unwelcome return is the meteoric rise in racial hatred as well as nationalism and neo-nazism in this country.  Yes, they have always been there, but proponents have been emboldened by the actions and rhetoric of President Trump and other politicians, other types of leaders, and fellow citizens.  Still think the words of the President don't matter that much?  For these people, second-class citizen status is reserved for non-whites, and three Reichs just aren't enough.

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And now, for the shortest piece in this post:
Two years after Franklin Delano Roosevelt's death in 1945, during his fourth term in office, Congress passed the Twenty-Second Amendment. They did that regarding presidential terms in office, but not their own.  Now, why is that?

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And that ends part one.  More tidying up to be done tomorrow.

Terry

Phrase of the Day: STAY STRONG

Farewell, 2018.  Greetings, 2019.  My sincerest wishes to all of you, dear readers, for a wonderful new year!

Two years ago, when we were bidding farewell to 2016, many of us, myself included, bemoaned how terrible of a year it was in terms of the number celebrity deaths.  While the number of celebrity deaths may be a little lower than two years ago, it has still been a rough year for other reasons.

Last year, in looking back at the stories of 2017, I wrote a line that I think remains applicable to looking back at 2018:

"[M]any of the stories had me wanting to eschew profundity for profanity..."

Yep, still true.

Much of the good that happened this year, and there was a lot, was overshadowed by the bad.  (Sadly, this is the norm.)  It was certainly a rollercoaster ride, but there was plenty of both. 

The fight to get medical marijuana, which has been proven to be beneficial for certain individuals, legalized in this country continues to slowly move along as does the fight to reduce or cut medical benefits.  The Democrat's "blue wave" washed over the House of Representatives with a gain of forty seats while voting rights and actual votes cast were cut.  We reached for the stars with NASA and SpaceX, even landing on Mars, but far too many of us here on Earth continue to die from hunger.  Boeing launched a business jet capable of the longest flight time ever while even the briefest of human connections became just a little briefer. 

Ireland repealed its abortion ban while some American politicians continue to try and legally define abortion by re-defining what a living human being is at earlier and earlier times in a woman's pregnancy.  Whether you call it neo-Nazism or nationalism, it rose (and not just in the U.S.) while the unnecessary harassment and murder of innocent persons, mostly black, remained relatively unchanged.  South Korea hosted its first ever Olympics Games, but the question of whether the money spent for the Games could be spent more wisely, either for the Games or elsewhere, remains.  (I think it can.)  The election of Miguel Diaz-Canel as President of Cuba ended nearly six decades of rule by a Castro, while many in this country want our current President out of office after just two years.

A rollercoaster ride, indeed.

I would like to offer something personal as, hopefully, a reminder for the rest of us.  Without getting too mired with all of the details, I found 2018 to be a year that I felt alone.  There is a difference between being alone and feeling alone.  Being alone can be a good thing.  Sometimes, you may want to be alone to recharge your batteries or decompress from a stressful situation.  I try to find times when I can be alone from time to time, and I find it necessary.  Feeling alone is where you feel, rightly or wrongly, that you have no one to help, no one has your back.  It may be something you feel in general or it may be in terms of something particular. 

For me, it wasn't just the loss of a dear friend just over two months ago, but there were moments near the end of the year (and more than just this year, to be honest) that showed me I have no one on whom I could rely.  There have been a few moments throughout my lifetime where I have felt this, so my goal is to try and see this as nothing more than the latest occurrence.

Even if successful in meeting that goal, it still hurts.  Honestly, no one should have to feel that.

We are all in this thing called the human experience together.  The less we are there for others, the greater the fabric of this shared experience gets tattered.  This is not advocating for making friends only with people who can benefit you; those are more utilitarian acquaintances than friends.  One of the pieces of the nature of friendship is helping each other out when needed.  Not that all of a person's friends are able to just drop everything to help, but when none do so, it is a horrible feeling.

So, yes, we are all in this together.  Be there for one another.

For the past several years, I have ended my New Year's post with a video of a song that usually points to the the year gone by, but more importantly, to the year ahead.  As this blog will wrap up later this month, this will be the fifth and final year for that.  With that in mind, I thought I would end with not one, but two videos.

The first song is Rachel Platten's hit 'Fight Song'.  I hope we all find some fight still inside of ourselves this year.  The second song is from a group called Playing for Change which works at connecting and inspiring people through music.  It is their first video, which was released ten years ago, and speaks to the last point I was making above.  It is a reworking of the classic Ben E. King song 'Stand By Me'.



Terry